3 Simple Steps to Letting it All Go

Isn’t it funny how the one thing we want to pursue in life is usually the thing we face the most internal resistance from?! It’s like we can wake up everyday and schlep ourselves to a job we hate, sit there for 8 hours and take a 30 minute lunch break, but yet its too hard for us to do that very thing that can potentially set us free from all of it. 

Nothing makes me more annoyed at myself than letting myself slip away from the very thing I know I’m meant to do. The slightest distractions has the ability to veer me so far off course, I can no longer find my way back on my own.

At the beginning of the year I hit the ground full steam ahead. I had all the time in the world as I had cut back teaching so many fitness classes. Literally, I had like full days to dedicate to growing my business and working with potential clients. 

And I did! I showed up big, bigger than I had in the past, I’d hit my stride with my blog and working with and meeting badass babes aiming to get their businesses up and running.  Hosting events and workshops AND I even hired an assistant/editor/all around life saver (hey, Val!). It was perfect. I felt my momentum shift, finally. I knew if I continued this way, I’d be rocking and rolling in no time. But this post isn't about momentum, or resistance. It's about trust.

A Course in Miracles shares my all-time favorite quote: 

"Those who are certain of the outcome can wait, and wait without anxiety."

It's a message I have to remind myself of constantly. And when I forget, out of nowhere, the universe intervenes and says, “not so fast”. 

...my fitness career was about to get rocked.

I was hired, fired and quit two jobs in a matter of 48 hours. 

Yes. You read that right.

Talk about an intervention.

But what's really pretty funny is how the universe always has your back. You know!?

These two days were an emotional roller coaster. I’d accepted a job that would require me to take a big leap of faith out of my comfort zone (thanks to my now boss for calling me on it, believing in me and pushing me in the direction I needed to go) and would require me to exclusively work for that studio, meaning I would have to say goodbye to the communities of spin addicts I’d become attached to over two years teaching. 

It was the hardest decision I’d made in a while (I know, #firstworldproblems}. 

But in hindsight, it was the best decision I’ve made in a while and I’m so incredibly happy with the new community I’ve become apart of. That's usually the case though, the scariest thing is the exact thing we're supposed to do.

However, because of #balance...a job I’d be training with/for for nearly four months (for free**! btw.} took me off the schedule, (fitfam code for #yourefired} due to a series of unfortunate events that could fill up a blog post on a different topic

Of course, it’s never fun getting fired. It was a new feeling for me because I’m a quitter. I quit any job before anyone has the chance to fire me. At this point I’m pretty much a professional quitter. We’ve all got our talents, right!?

So, reeling from the high of taking a new, exciting, scary fitness opportunity, I was sidelined by learning all those months of training were all for nothing. 

That is, until I took a step back, and remembered life doesn’t happen by accident. 

I started thinking of the lesson, or purpose in all of this. 

It didn’t hit me until a few days later, but when it did, I couldn’t help but laugh.

I met my now bosses at the other fitness studio I had been training at. They had come in and taken my class. Yet, had I never met them at that studio, I would’ve never even auditioned. 

The universe loves a good laugh. By pretty much clearing my schedule, I opened myself up for the most amazing new adventure. 

Teaching the megaformer class was my bridge to another opportunity. I thought I had it all figured out, how my fitness journey would go. But this was just another example of how even the best laid plans are no match for what the universe has in store for you. 

Financially and professionally this move was the biggest blessing so far this year. It's pushed me to grow into a better instructor, coach + person and has allowed me the ability to feel valued at what I do. 

I'm writing this to show you that you have no idea where life will take you. All you can do is show up every day with your best foot forward. Every set back is a setup for a comeback. I truly believe that when things seem to be working against you, nothing is falling in your favor, that's when the master's at work. Let the universe blow your mind.

Now the only way to do this is to surrender.

Gabby Bernstein's book, The Universe Has Your Back, does a great job helping you learn how to do this. If you haven't read it yet, I suggest snagging yourself a copy right now!

But ultimately, surrendering is an art. An art of letting go of the outcome. Knowing the universe always has your back makes taking things like getting fired after four months of unpaid training an easier pill to swallow. Albeit a big ass pill, but easier nonetheless.

When you know, in your soul, every experience is happening for your greatest good, it doesn't matter what life throws at you. You are rock solid. And you know who's in control. 

There are three simple steps to use when feeling overwhelmed but life's just not going your way.

Step 1: Evaluate. Step back and look at the situation as objectively as possible. See all the characters at play. See all the situations you're encountering + try to make a connection. Once you look at a situation from the outside, the lessons + blessings start to become clearer.

Step 2: Detach. Remove your stronghold on the outcome you wish to see. Instead reattach to the feelings you want to feel. For example, if you're holding onto to getting this particular job, climbing the ladder so you can make enough money to go on vacation twice a year—practice feeling like you already go on vacation twice a year. Step into the feelings of the end result, not the road in which you take to get there. This will eliminate any resistance you're creating + allow the universe to step in.

Step 3: Gratitude. Did ya really think I'd leave this one  out?! Expressing gratitude raises your vibrational frequency + puts you in alignment with all the magic. Being grateful for every situation fast tracks what's in store for you + helps you feel calm even in the most confusing, frustrating situations.

So what have you been hanging onto? Clinging to like your life depends on it? Is it a job you believe you're supposed to have? A love you knowww you are meant to be with?! By holding onto these feelings you're preventing all the incredible things the universe is just waiting to dump on you. 

So let go. Let it all go. Step out of the driver seat. You have no responsibility other than showing up as your best self every day expecting the miracles the universe has in store for you. 

You're off the hook.